I came up with an idea for a movement, campaign, or initiative—I’m still working on the best term for it. My goal is to encourage men to feel more confident and open, especially around issues society tells us to hide. The podcast became the catalyst for what I now call the “Free the Bulge” movement, focused on normalizing male body confidence and breaking taboos. After thinking it over for two years, I decided it was time to take action. I have many posts drafted and realized, “We need to take this further, and I need to take some risks.”
In 2025, I experienced some of my lowest points—wrestling with self-doubt, poor body image, and mental health struggles. The podcast became my outlet. Hearing from guys who feel inspired and less alone means a lot to me, especially on tough days. These feelings have lingered, and I’ve often felt lost. While I’ve shared these experiences with close friends, I’m working on being more open with the podcast audience, even when it feels uncomfortable. I know real friends care, even if society says not to burden others.
Exploring AI has ignited new inspiration for me. I now use it as a creative tool to make images and videos and to organize my romance novel. As someone with dyslexia and other challenges, getting thoughts on paper is tough. Creating fun, positive underwear and Speedo content with Sora has been a recent highlight. When ‘bikini club’ came up, it resonated as the movement I wanted to launch but had held back.
Bikini Club began with a line from a random video, which I expanded into a space where ‘bros’ and regular guys come together—all are welcome to wear swim briefs. (No thongs yet, as Sora doesn’t allow them.) It’s basically what if swim briefs were the norm and everyone wore them. I’ve created a lot of Bikini Club content, some of which I’ll share here, with a full post to come. My goal is to grow Bikini Club into an inclusive space for underwear/swim/spandex/gear enthusiasts. AI helps me bring these ideas to life, and I’m embracing my unique approach, focusing on what works for me.
I’ve noticed that whenever we share personal stories on the blog or podcast, they resonate deeply. Honest conversations—beyond simple preferences—show men they aren’t alone. Feeling sexy is a right every man should have. Too often, LGBTQ+ individuals are pressured to hide this or are dismissed as trivial by partners. Underwear is more than clothing; it’s about identity and confidence. It helps us take risks and present ourselves authentically, despite societal messages saying men shouldn’t. I no longer worry about others’ opinions—my underwear is a vital part of who I am.
Looking back, I’ve never been the most confident person. As an introvert and former people-pleaser in my 20s, I often struggled to see my own worth. A quote from my favorite movie, Muriel’s Wedding, asks: “Do you ever think you’re nothing? Sometimes I think I’m nothing. Useless.” This line struck a chord with me in the theater, as I knew what it felt like. My learning disabilities made me question my value. I never want anyone to feel as I did, which is one of the subconscious reasons I started UNB and Brief Talk—to put myself out there, to hear guys say, “OMG, I feel that too,” and to invite guests who share similar paths.
Now we enter Phase 1 of “Free the Bulge.” The main message: I need your support for this movement to transform men’s lives by building a more open, supportive, and honest community. Your engagement is key to this change. Here’s how you can help:
- Reach out—share feedback and what inspires you on the podcast. Send in ideas or guest suggestions. Your feedback truly matters, and I want to hear from more of you. There’s a new contact form to reach me!
- Share our content—this really matters. When we post a show or a “Free the Bulge” update, please share it on your social media. Every share makes a difference. Social media is fickle, so your support has a real impact.
- Support us—First, with moral and emotional encouragement as listed above. Second, with monetary help. We have a Patreon I’m working to grow by over 100% this year. Running a podcast carries costs—last year, I worried about hosting, but made it work. I’m looking to expand and get more equipment. I’m not aiming for anything fancy—the travel and in-person gear I want is under $400 (on sale).
- Be vocal—I encourage guys to share their stories. You don’t have to come on the podcast; write it, and I’ll post it on UNB. I want more stories from people of color, straight/bi guys, and bigger/beefier guys; everyone is welcome. You may think your story isn’t special, but you will inspire others. That’s an amazing feeling.
This movement is heartfelt —not just words—it’s about fostering a supportive community where all men can be authentic and confident. Let’s commit, together, to honesty and openness as we redefine what underwear means for us.
