Brian Widmayer — aka @thatroofcowboy — is a Florida-based fitness enthusiast, contractor, and content creator known for blending confidence, discipline, and authenticity. With a background in athletics and a passion for self-improvement, Brian uses his platform to promote body confidence, mental toughness, and breaking outdated norms around men’s fashion and self-expression.

Why You Like Briefs/Thongs 

For me, it started with stepping outside my comfort zone. Most guys are taught to play it safe, but confidence doesn’t grow there. Wearing briefs and thongs became less about the clothing and more about owning who I am—physically and mentally.

It’s about being comfortable in your own skin, not seeking validation, and realizing confidence looks different on everyone. Building on that, if I can help even a few guys feel more confident and less restricted by what people think, that’s a win.

I’m big on pushing limits—whether that’s in the gym, business, or just doing something that makes most people hesitate. In my experience, growth comes from getting uncomfortable, and experimenting with briefs and thongs is just another example of that mindset.

My first time wearing a thong was when another influencer I connected with on Instagram invited me out to a Steve Aoki Tampa Hard Rock pool party. At first, I was like… why not? I saw it as an opportunity to prove to myself that I could do something uncomfortable and break out of my shell.

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One of the best parts of hosting the Stretching the Truth podcast is meeting people in the spandex community who really care about gear and the culture around it. Not long ago, I found someone on Spandex Party whose photos immediately stood out to me. He has incredible legs in spandex, so I reached out and invited him on the show. That’s how I got to talk with Hung in Gear, a European gear fan who truly loves Lycra. We ended up having a great conversation about how many of us first discovered spandex, why we enjoy it, and how a simple interest can turn into something much bigger.

Like a lot of people in the community, Hung in Gear first got interested in Lycra in a pretty simple way. When he was younger, his dad took up cycling, so cycling gear started showing up at home. Shiny tights and tight cycling suits were suddenly everywhere, and his curiosity soon became fascination. After he moved out, he started building his own collection. It began with secondhand finds from local shops, then he started ordering gear online and trying out different brands. Soon, a few pieces turned into drawers and boxes full of gear. Anyone who’s gotten into spandex knows how that happens.

What I really liked about our conversation was how open Hung in Gear was about how people get into spandex. Sometimes it starts because it looks good, sometimes because it feels great, or just because you like how it shows off your body. But after a while, you realize you can actually use the gear for its real purpose. Running, walking, and working out become part of the experience. What started as a fascination turns into something useful, too. As he put it, you get to wear gear you love while doing something healthy. It’s a win-win.

Another thing that stood out was how spandex culture can change depending on where you live. Hung in Gear lives in Europe and said it’s normal to see guys wearing Lycra, whether they’re cycling, running, or just wearing compression gear as part of their day. He said that on any given day, he might see fifteen or twenty guys in Lycra just living their lives. In the U.S., we’re starting to see more of that again, but Europe still seems a little ahead when it comes to making tight athletic gear a regular sight.

We also talked about favorite gear brands. Hung in Gear shared a few that anyone interested in spandex should try, like Nike compression gear, Under Armor tights, and Amoresy bodysuits. These brands offer good quality and are pretty easy to find. We both noticed that color is making a comeback. For a long time, compression gear was mostly black, navy, or dark gray, but now brighter colors like pink, yellow, orange, and light blue are showing up again. If you’re going to wear tight gear, you might as well have fun with it. Hung in Gear said he wears tights for walks and exercise, sometimes with a sweater on top. He likes making gear part of his daily life and connects with others who wear it for working out, the style, or just to feel good.

One thing Hung in Gear said really stayed with me. He explained that when someone puts on a skin-tight outfit that shows their shape, they’re celebrating their body. When you look at it like that, the color or style isn’t as important. Spandex becomes more about expressing yourself than following rules. Honestly, I think that’s something we need more of in men’s gear.

Naturally, we had to talk about wishlists. Hung in Gear said his list is long and always getting longer. He’s looking for bright pink compression sets, more Amoresy suits, and rare Nike tights he searches for on secondhand sites. He also shared a helpful tip: check secondhand sites for gear. Sometimes you find pieces you didn’t even know were out there, and they become new favorites.

What I enjoyed most about this conversation was how easy it was to relate to. Many guys discover spandex in similar ways. Curiosity turns into fascination, and a few pieces of gear slowly become a collection. Eventually, you realize it’s about more than just the gear—it’s about confidence, community, and expressing yourself. If you want to hear the full conversation with H

Bikini Club wasn’t planned. There was no strategy, no big reveal, and no detailed roadmap. It began as a throwaway line in a Sora video, where I was doing an over-the-top bro-drag fantasy—rooftop scenes, wild competition briefs, exaggerated confidence. In the midst of it, I said, “Bikini Club.” It stuck—a punchline, a phrase that captured the video’s playful energy.

But something about it stuck with me, and that changed everything.

After the video, I couldn’t stop thinking about it. I made more videos—fake Bikini Club events, Vegas day clubs, beach weekends, and guys in bright speedos walking confidently. At first, it felt like typical fantasy storytelling. But the more I worked on it, the more I wanted to experience it in real life.

Reflecting on this, I realized something that surprised me.

It wasn’t about the Speedos. It wasn’t even about the visuals. It was about the feeling underneath it all.

When I reflected on what I was creating, the core theme became clear: confidence. Men encouraging one another instead of competing, the celebration of diverse bodies, and joy without apology. At its heart, Bikini Club expresses what I wish had existed when I was younger—a supportive, visible space.

In the late ’80s and through the ’90s, wearing a swim brief wasn’t just about style for me. It made me feel vulnerable and exposed, both physically and socially. I was always aware of who might be watching and what they might be thinking. Was I okay? Was I too much or not enough? Growing up and coming out, even when being visible could still be risky, changed how I moved through the world. I learned to be cautious, to scan rooms, and to shrink myself when needed.

I used to go lie out in Piedmont Park during the week because it was quieter. Fewer people meant fewer stares, fewer variables. I wasn’t the loudest guy. I wasn’t the most confident. But when I was in a speedo in the sun, I felt closer to myself than almost anywhere else. It was one of the few places where I felt aligned in my body. That feeling mattered more than I probably understood at the time.

Confidence wasn’t something I was born with. I built it through experience and community—by finding people who made spaces feel safer and by exploring underwear and swimwear as expressions of identity. Over time, this led to UNB, the podcast, and conversations about masculinity, body image, vulnerability, and expression. At heart, my goal has always been to help men feel comfortable in their own skin.

Bringing this all together, when I started imagining Bikini Club as something real, I realized it was an extension of that same mission.

Bikini Club might look superficial, but its true purpose is empowering men to embrace themselves, normalize confidence, celebrate all body types, and foster meaningful camaraderie far beyond appearances.

What surprised me most was that the fantasy I was creating wasn’t about escaping reality; it was about aspiration. I wasn’t picturing wild parties just for show. I was imagining brotherhood without toxicity, energy without ego, and a space where men support each other rather than compare. I wanted a family built on confidence, not hierarchy.

That was the turning point: it stopped being a joke.

From that moment on, it felt like a calling.

Years of building community through UNB—writing, podcasting, sharing stories—have shown me how powerful it is when men open up. When someone says, “I thought I was the only one,” it’s transformative. Bikini Club feels like the next step—giving these conversations a real, shared space.

There will be fun events, but the heart of Bikini Club is fostering spaces where men feel seen, accepted, and supported—promoting normalcy in visibility and breaking free from limiting standards.

It’s what would happen if swim briefs were mainstream.

After I started developing Bikini Club, it felt like swim briefs were what guys wore, and if you wore something different, “what was wrong with you?” It’s Bikni Club Bro! It’s a fun alternate reality where everything we love is mainstream, and the board shorts and such are shunned. It’s like, “Are you a real man if you don’t rock the brief?” The more I develop it, the more of this concept is taking over, and we need to make it happen. 

It’s about reclaiming space.

For decades, men were told to cover up, to tone it down, and to blend in. Queer men especially learned to be careful about being seen. Bigger men were told to shrink themselves, and sensitive men were told to act tougher. Bikini Club quietly stands against all of that—not with aggression or arrogance, but with confidence.

We’re here. We’re visible. We’re not apologizing.

Looking back, it’s striking that none of this began with a strategy session. Instead, it grew from a spontaneous line in a video and from recognizing how much I wanted that joy to exist in real life.

Bikini Club was meant as a fantasy. But it reflected what I cared about: confidence, family, self-expression, visibility, and freedom in your own body.

Sometimes, the things that matter most don’t come with a formal introduction. They might start as a joke, a vibe, or a creative experiment—and then they just won’t let you go.

Now, Bikini Club isn’t just an idea anymore. It’s a community I want to build.

I want to build a supportive family—a community for everyone who connects with Bikini Club’s purpose.

You’re already part of it.

Sorry for missing last week’s Free the Bulge. I needed a few mental health days after the migration and other personal commitments. But I’m back, and today I want to talk funding—not PBS pledge week (still not ruled out), but merch! Over the years, I’ve created several items, and only the Thong Slut hats have really taken off. 

Currently, I have some shirts with the new Podcast Logos, mousepads, a coffee cup, and more available in the UNB Store under UNB Gear. I’d really like to know what merch you’re most interested in. Would you prefer subtle options you could wear daily, or are you looking for something bold? Please let me know your thoughts or specific requests. 

One idea I had is enamel pins, and I have a few rough designs (examples shown above). If I did make these, there would be a preorder with a minimum needed to fulfill the order; I’ve already priced them out and could offer a presale price and a regular price. Would you be interested in enamel pins? Please comment or message me if this is something you’d purchase, and let me know which designs appeal to you, or if you have suggestions. 

Similarly, my second idea is shadow boxes, because some gear is art. I have completed these two boxes. The first is a square shadow box containing an athletic cup. I love this because the Shock Doctor cup is a classic in design and stands out on the black. I have been debating putting lights on the inside as well, but that’s for phase two. The second is a Jockstrap in a shadow box. I chose the jock just for the classic jock icon status, but it can also include white briefs, bikinis, Speedos, thongs, and more. These two can have lights inside as well. These would not be cheap. So far, I estimate about $75 for the cup (due to the deep shadowbox needed) and about $60 for the underwear. I could put in a favorite pair or a new pair. But if I did a used pair, it would have to be freshly laundered and sent. The prices for shadow boxes are not bad for custom work. I’m looking at different backgrounds depending on the pair (such as complementary colors to make it pop), but these are both off the shelf, and I wanted to make sure I could make them happen before I invest too much in them. If you wanted a custom pair, I could either order it and put it in the box, or the customer would have to send it to me. I believe I could do singlets or spandex shorts as well. But that Price would be around $125 or more, and shipping would be interesting. (Note the swimwear didn’t turn out well, the shadow box was too small and I couldn’t stretch it as much as I needed, Also, it was a small and still too big for 11×17, going to try with a 16×20 with another pair and try again, but the cup turned out amazing)

What do you think of these ideas? Do you have your own ideas for underwear or gear merch you’d like to see? Please share your suggestions or feedback with me—I’d love to work on prototypes or designs that you actually want. Your input matters! 

Hey guys, I wanted to go through a little bit of what happened this week, and I am still pissed at this experience. It’s one of those things that from the beginning, your inner voice says, ” Don’t do this, but you don’t listen. This is the second time I have tried to migrate UNB/Brief Talk to a new, cheaper server, and it’s turned out worse than when I started.

A little backstory: I was trying to cut costs and make things easier for me in the long run. I have been with my current host for 15 years, and they are getting expensive, more so than other hosting companies out there. When I tried to migrate before, it was a nightmare, but now it seems much easier.

Things sent alarm bells from the beginning.

1. Due to some issues signing in, I used “Log in with Apple” because I was in a hurry and wanted to get this process started. I had 2 weeks to get it done without paying my current host on the 1st of the month. Each time I hit a delay, I tried to log back in, and I kept getting an error.
2. I called into support, and the email that logs in with Apple, and they had no easy solution. I had to fill out a form and submit my ID and other information to prove my identity to change my email. The email Apple submitted wasn’t forwarding emails. This took another day or so for them to change my email and allow me access to my account.
3. I also tried to migrate using their migration tool. After a few minutes, it failed and said I needed to contact support and have them migrate it for me. So, I went in and paid the $150 to have a “professional migration.” I did this last Friday.
4. I heard nothing until Monday and had to send in information and logins so they could access all the files for migration. I got an email saying I needed to submit more information to log in on Tuesday.
5. Thursday was supposed to be the day the migration was scheduled to happen. I got a notification at 9:50 or so that the site was offline, then back up. At 10:21, I received a message that it was down, and when I tried to log in, I got a 403 Error.
6. I had to work both jobs, so I didn’t get to investigate the issue until after 6 PM. But before this, I tried to log in to my FTP server and couldn’t. Upon logging in from my CPanel (control panel). Everything was gone. All the WordPress files, podcasts, images, and everything. This caused me to be upset. But they sent me an email saying the migration failed and that they needed more or different access to complete it. However, there were no files to move at this point. They tried to complain and restore from a backup, but at that time, the backup was inaccessible. I said, “Everything is gone, and no one seemed to care,” at the new host. I was told that I can’t talk to the migration team, but I don’t know why. Then I said the migration did something that caused my entire site to be deleted. I was told by the “new host” that it could have been a bot or a hacker, not them. There was no “oh let’s investigate.” It took me over about 40 mins to get a supervisor. Who I complained to, and yes, both these conversations were loud.  The part that sticks out is that at no time did either say, “Hey, let’s see what happened. It’s possible that something happened in the process; let’s figure out what.” Instead, it was up to me to investigate and get back to them.
7. After I got off the phone, I called my current host to find the server logs to see who or what had deleted the files. Upon talUpon talking, I found out the log we needed had been deleted, and there is no way to tell unless we do some investigation, which would start at $100 and go up. port guy said, “You can do that, but what is the point, unless you do legal action?”
8. Today I called and got a refund of the migration fee and hosting I never used. It was much easier. So I am stuck with my current host for the time being. Who has been good outside of the price?

A thing about me, when I get super pissed, I get quiet and calm. I listen, and when I respond, I want answers to my questions. I am not asking frivolous questions; these are things I need to know. And when you dance around them, don’t answer them, or deflect, that is not good. Because UNB has been a part of my life for almost 18 years. It’s a very big part of me, and when I found the site was completely gone, I feared it might not be recovered. I was going to walk away. Had the site not been able to be restored from my backup, there would be no more UNB, Brief talk, or anything. It was devastating to me. And to have the person on the other end of the phone not give a fuck, made it worse to me. It felt like a malicious act, not a big deal. And when I say I was done, I was 100% done. This year has been extremely rough, and to have the one big positive thing in my life gone was devastating. The next step is, I don’t know. I’m sticking with the higher-priced hosting.

I’m planning to host some live shows on Riverside, where you’ll be able to ask questions about the podcast. I think this interactive format will make connecting with you much more fun, and any challenges should be easy to handle. This post is short because I’m still waiting to find out when the site will be migrated.

Community Building

Live shows would be a great way for everyone to connect and interact. It’s not just about me getting to know you better, but also about you meeting other listeners. I’ve found it tough to figure out the best way to build our community. Discord has its issues, and Reddit works, but isn’t very user-friendly. Doing live shows feels like a good step forward.

Only Available on Riverside

One great thing about Riverside is that anyone can listen and join in, no matter how many people show up. If you want to call in, you’ll need to use a desktop with Chrome. You can still listen on the app, but calling in isn’t possible there. The group text chat is always open, both in the app and on the website.

Missing the show

I’ll repost the show on Patreon, but it won’t go out on the public feed. I’ll also write a blog post covering the main points we discussed, so more people can see what was talked about. I want to offer more for Patreon members, and this feels like a natural next step.

I’d love to hear from more of you, so please reach out. Let me know what you think about the campaign and share any ideas you have.

UNB is moving, well, not really, it will still be at the same address, and the podcasts will be where they always have been, but I am moving hosting. I have had the same host for 17 years of the 18 years of UNB. I have been debating moving in the past and have had some major issues, but I ran out of space and had to upgrade to a $ 84-a-month plan, which is a lot. While researching, I found a better dedicated WordPress hosting provider that fits my needs. 

I won’t go into the details of how this process started off, ugh, but I have officially paid and started the process to move the site. You may be asking why I hired someone. Well, that’s because the site has grown massively over almost 18 years. The database is larger than most services will import, and the files are in the 100,000’s. It’s just easier to do this than cause me frustration. When I tried to move a few months ago, none of the migration plug-ins worked, and it caused more issues than they solved. 

Here’s what to expect during the hosting migration: 

1. The site may be offline for a short period of time. This could be for the DNS to update. 
2. Podcasts may not be available; again, this should be for a short time. 
3. I may post frustrating messages on Bluesky. Which will be the case. 
4. Hosting will drop from $84 to $34 per month—a huge savings. 

So if you notice anything wonky, just hang on, it should take a few days to do and get updated!!!!

Thanks, guys. 

For those of you who have been around for a while, you know Underwear News Briefs has always been a passion project. What started as my love for underwear and the community around it turned into a blog, a store, and eventually podcasts like Brief Talk, Brief Talk After Dark, and Stretching the Truth.

This space exists because of the community.

You guys read the blog, listen to the podcasts, send messages, share your stories, and support the work I do. And honestly, that means the world to me.

Right now I’m working on upgrading a few key things behind the scenes so I can keep creating better content and keep everything running smoothly.

What I’m Raising Support For

1. Migrating UNB to a new host – $150

The site needs to move to a better hosting environment so it runs faster, more reliably, and can handle future growth.

This will help keep Underwear News Briefs running smoothly for everyone.

2. Audio Upgrade for the Podcasts

Better equipment means better sound and easier recording for interviews and discussions.

iZotope Elements Suite 11

Audio tools to clean up recordings and improve podcast sound quality.

https://www.izotope.com/en/shop/elements-suite-11

ZOOM PodTrak P4next Recorder — $179

A dedicated podcast recorder that will make recording interviews and episodes much easier.

https://zoomcorp.com/en/us/podtrak-recorders/podcast-recorders/podtrak-p4next

ZDM-1 Podcast Mic Packs — $99 each (often $69.99 on Amazon)

I’m hoping to add 2–4 microphones so I can record guests and group discussions more easily.

https://zoomcorp.com/en/us/microphones/microphones/zdm-1-podcast-mic-pack

How You Can Help

If you’ve ever enjoyed:

• The blog

• The podcasts

• The conversations about underwear, spandex, and confidence

• The community we’ve built

There are two ways you can support.

Join the Patreon

Patreon helps support the ongoing work behind the scenes and helps keep everything running long-term.

Join here:

https://patreon.com/unbblog

Even the free membership helps you stay connected with what we’re building.

Make a One-Time Donation

If Patreon isn’t your thing but you still want to help, one-time donations are incredibly appreciated.

Every bit goes directly back into improving the blog, podcast, and community.

Donate here:

Why This Matters

UNB has always been about more than just underwear.

It’s about confidence, community, and celebrating the gear we love.

With your help, I can keep growing the blog, improving the podcasts, and creating more content for the community we’ve built together.

Thank you for being part of this journey.

— UNB Tim

One of the things I love most about Stretching the Truth is getting to talk with guys who truly understand the appeal of spandex gear. In this episode, I welcome back Scott from Fourway333, and we dive into a topic that doesn’t get nearly enough attention — short suits.

Our last conversation focused on long suits, and the response from listeners was amazing. A lot of you told me you loved hearing two guys really get into the details of gear — the fabrics, the fit, the brands, and why we love wearing it. So we decided it was time to flip things around and talk about the other side of the spectrum.

This episode is all about short suits, singlets, leotards, bodysuits, and athletic gear.

The Appeal of Short Suits

Short suits are one of those pieces of gear that sit right at the intersection of sport, style, and self-expression. They show off the body in a way that’s sleek and athletic, but they’re also incredibly comfortable when you find the right fabric and fit.

Scott and I talk about tri suits, which are often one of the easiest entry points into the world of short suits. These suits are designed for triathlon athletes, so they’re made with high-performance fabrics that stretch, breathe, and move with the body.

But beyond performance, they just look great.

The cuts are clean, the fabrics feel amazing, and many of them create that streamlined look that spandex fans love.

Wrestling Singlets and Athletic Gear

Of course, we couldn’t talk about short suits without getting into wrestling singlets.

Singlets have always had a strong following among gear guys, and it’s easy to understand why. They’re athletic, they’re bold, and they create a silhouette that really highlights the body.

We talk about some of the classic brands like Cliff Keen, ASICS, and Adidas, along with some newer options and custom pieces that are showing up in the gear world.

Singlets have this great mix of sport authenticity and gear culture, and that’s a big reason they’ve remained so popular.

Dancewear, Leotards, and Bodysuits

Another big part of the conversation focuses on dancewear and leotards, which are becoming more popular among guys who love spandex.

For years, these pieces were marketed almost exclusively toward dancers or gymnasts. But if you look at the fabrics, cuts, and designs, it’s easy to see why more guys are discovering them.

Some of these pieces are incredibly well made, with fabrics that stretch beautifully and designs that highlight the body in ways most traditional gear doesn’t.

Scott shares some great recommendations for brands to try, especially for guys who are curious but not sure where to start.

Gear Is Only Part of the Story

While we definitely geek out over gear in this episode, the conversation also turns toward something bigger — community.

One of the things both Scott and I believe strongly is that the spandex and gear world should be about more than just posting photos or collecting gear. It should be about connecting with other guys who share the same interests.

There’s something powerful about realizing you’re not the only one who loves this stuff.

When guys start talking openly about it, it creates a space where people can feel comfortable being themselves.

And honestly, that’s a big part of what Stretching the Truth is about.

Building the Spandex Community

One of the themes that came up during the episode is the idea that we need a stronger spandex community here in the U.S.

There are incredible groups and events around the world where gear guys can meet, connect, and share their interests. We’d love to see more of that happening here.

Whether it’s online conversations, gear trades, meetups, or just connecting with new friends, building those relationships makes the community stronger.

And who knows — maybe someday we’ll even get that spandex resort Scott joked about.

Listen to the Episode

If you love spandex, singlets, leotards, bodysuits, or just hearing two gear guys talk about what makes great gear, you’ll definitely enjoy this episode.

Listen now and join the conversation.

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Body Positivity, Speedos & Content Creation with Zac Goes Places

In this episode of the Brief Talk Podcast, UNB Tim sits down with Zac (Zac Goes Places) — a travel-loving content creator based in Orlando who mixes body positivity, swimwear confidence, and a little thirst-trap fun into his social media presence.  

What started as a personal journey toward confidence turned into a powerful message that every body deserves to feel good in what they wear — including Speedos.

Zac shares how he went from never posting a shirtless photo to becoming a content creator encouraging others to embrace their bodies and take risks in life.

This conversation covers everything from Andrew Christian being a gateway brand, to the realities of content creation, social media algorithms, and body image in the gay community.

And yes… there are plenty of Speedo stories.

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In This Episode

Zac’s Background

• Orlando-based content creator focused on travel, LGBTQ life, and social media content

• Shares adventures around Florida, theme parks, cruise ships, and nightlife

• Mixes travel content with underwear and swimwear confidence

The First Pair of “Gay Underwear”

Zac talks about discovering Andrew Christian underwear as a closeted teen and how the brand served as a gateway into the world of sexy underwear for many gay men.

Because let’s be honest…

A lot of us had that moment discovering underwear that made us feel confident.

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The Reality of Content Creation

Zac breaks down what many people don’t see:

• Editing photos and videos

• Constant posting to feed the algorithm

• Managing multiple social platforms

• The time and financial investment behind content

Content creation may look simple, but there’s a lot of work behind every post.

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From Self-Doubt to Body Positivity

One of the most powerful parts of the episode is Zac’s body positivity journey.

After quitting a toxic corporate job and hitting a personal low point, Zac decided to take control of his health and confidence.

He set a goal to lose weight and eventually wear a Speedo publicly — something he had never done before.

When he finally posted his first Speedo photo online, the response was overwhelming.

Thousands of views and messages from people saying:

“You inspired me to post my Speedo photo too.”

That moment helped Zac realize something powerful:

Every body is a Speedo body.

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Swim Briefs & Confidence

Zac and Tim talk about:

• The comfort of swim briefs

• Wearing Speedos beyond the pool

• Finding brands that balance comfort and style

• Why more men should try them

Because once you find the right pair…

You may never go back.

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Living Life Without Waiting

One of the biggest takeaways from this episode:

Stop waiting.

Whether it’s wearing Speedos, traveling, creating content, or chasing your goals — life is too short to hold yourself back.

As Zac says:

“We only get one life. If it’s not hurting anyone, just do it.”

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Follow Zac

You can find Zac across social media at:

@ZacGoesPlaces

Instagram

Twitter / X

BlueSky

Patreon

Snapchat

JustForFans

All of Zac’s links can be found through his social media bio.

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Final Thoughts

This episode is a reminder that confidence isn’t about hitting some imaginary “perfect body.”

It’s about owning who you are right now.

Whether you’re rocking boxers, briefs, thongs, or Speedos…

Wear what makes you feel good.

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Support UNB

If you enjoy the podcast, please support the platforms that make it possible.

Follow UNB

Instagram

https://instagram.com/unbblog

BlueSky

https://bsky.app/profile/unbtim

Twitter/X

Reddit

https://reddit.com/r/unbstoreandblog

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Visit the UNB Store

Shop great brands and support the podcast:

https://unbstore.com

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UNB Affiliate Links

Ergowear

International Jock

BodyAware

Candyman

Xtremen

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Listen to More Brief Talk Podcast

You can find the Brief Talk Podcast on:

• Apple Podcasts

• Spotify

• Amazon Music

• YouTube

• and everywhere you listen to podcasts

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If you enjoyed this episode, share it with a friend and leave a review.

And remember:

Confidence looks good on everyone.

I came up with an idea for a movement, campaign, or initiative—I’m still working on the best term for it. My goal is to encourage men to feel more confident and open, especially around issues society tells us to hide. The podcast became the catalyst for what I now call the “Free the Bulge” movement, focused on normalizing male body confidence and breaking taboos. After thinking it over for two years, I decided it was time to take action. I have many posts drafted and realized, “We need to take this further, and I need to take some risks.” 

In 2025, I experienced some of my lowest points—wrestling with self-doubt, poor body image, and mental health struggles. The podcast became my outlet. Hearing from guys who feel inspired and less alone means a lot to me, especially on tough days. These feelings have lingered, and I’ve often felt lost. While I’ve shared these experiences with close friends, I’m working on being more open with the podcast audience, even when it feels uncomfortable. I know real friends care, even if society says not to burden others. 

Exploring AI has ignited new inspiration for me. I now use it as a creative tool to make images and videos and to organize my romance novel. As someone with dyslexia and other challenges, getting thoughts on paper is tough. Creating fun, positive underwear and Speedo content with Sora has been a recent highlight. When ‘bikini club’ came up, it resonated as the movement I wanted to launch but had held back. 

Bikini Club began with a line from a random video, which I expanded into a space where ‘bros’ and regular guys come together—all are welcome to wear swim briefs. (No thongs yet, as Sora doesn’t allow them.) It’s basically what if swim briefs were the norm and everyone wore them.  I’ve created a lot of Bikini Club content, some of which I’ll share here, with a full post to come. My goal is to grow Bikini Club into an inclusive space for underwear/swim/spandex/gear enthusiasts. AI helps me bring these ideas to life, and I’m embracing my unique approach, focusing on what works for me. 

I’ve noticed that whenever we share personal stories on the blog or podcast, they resonate deeply. Honest conversations—beyond simple preferences—show men they aren’t alone. Feeling sexy is a right every man should have. Too often, LGBTQ+ individuals are pressured to hide this or are dismissed as trivial by partners. Underwear is more than clothing; it’s about identity and confidence. It helps us take risks and present ourselves authentically, despite societal messages saying men shouldn’t. I no longer worry about others’ opinions—my underwear is a vital part of who I am. 

Looking back, I’ve never been the most confident person. As an introvert and former people-pleaser in my 20s, I often struggled to see my own worth. A quote from my favorite movie, Muriel’s Wedding, asks: “Do you ever think you’re nothing? Sometimes I think I’m nothing. Useless.” This line struck a chord with me in the theater, as I knew what it felt like. My learning disabilities made me question my value. I never want anyone to feel as I did, which is one of the subconscious reasons I started UNB and Brief Talk—to put myself out there, to hear guys say, “OMG, I feel that too,” and to invite guests who share similar paths. 

Now we enter Phase 1 of “Free the Bulge.” The main message: I need your support for this movement to transform men’s lives by building a more open, supportive, and honest community. Your engagement is key to this change. Here’s how you can help: 

• Reach out—share feedback and what inspires you on the podcast. Send in ideas or guest suggestions. Your feedback truly matters, and I want to hear from more of you. There’s a new contact form to reach me! 
• Share our content—this really matters. When we post a show or a “Free the Bulge” update, please share it on your social media. Every share makes a difference. Social media is fickle, so your support has a real impact. 
• Support us—First, with moral and emotional encouragement as listed above. Second, with monetary help. We have a Patreon I’m working to grow by over 100% this year. Running a podcast carries costs—last year, I worried about hosting, but made it work. I’m looking to expand and get more equipment. I’m not aiming for anything fancy—the travel and in-person gear I want is under $400 (on sale). 
• Be vocal—I encourage guys to share their stories. You don’t have to come on the podcast; write it, and I’ll post it on UNB. I want more stories from people of color, straight/bi guys, and bigger/beefier guys; everyone is welcome. You may think your story isn’t special, but you will inspire others. That’s an amazing feeling. 

This movement is heartfelt —not just words—it’s about fostering a supportive community where all men can be authentic and confident. Let’s commit, together, to honesty and openness as we redefine what underwear means for us.