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What starts a lifelong love of Lycra?

For this week’s guest on Stretching the Truth, it began with childhood curiosity, gymnastics leotards, and the growing popularity of spandex sportswear. Years later, one memorable trip into a fitting room finally gave him the opportunity to experience Lycra for himself.

That experience changed everything.

In the newest episode of Stretching the Truth, I sit down with LycAddict, a German gear enthusiast whose passion has grown into an impressive collection of cycling suits, soccer kits, leggings, singlets, bodysuits, cosplay gear, swimwear, and more.

From Curiosity to a Lycra Collection

Like many guys in the Lycra community, LycAddict began exploring his interest privately. Once he moved into his own place and had the freedom to buy and wear what he wanted, his collection quickly expanded.

Today, half of his large wardrobe is devoted entirely to spandex. His gear is organized by category, with separate spaces for soccer kits, cycling suits, singlets, cosplay, swimwear, and other favorite pieces.

We talk about how easily a collection can grow when you discover new styles through Instagram, Spandex Party, and other members of the community. One picture can inspire a new outfit, and suddenly the credit card is coming out again.

Why Fabric and Fit Matter

Not all spandex is created equal.

LycAddict explains why material composition is one of the first things he checks when buying gear. We discuss the difference between inexpensive Lycra and higher-quality fabrics, along with the disappointment of waiting weeks for a suit that does not look or feel as good as expected.

If you are beginning your own collection, LycAddict offers a smart suggestion: start with secondhand gear. It can be an affordable way to experiment with different fabrics, styles, cuts, and brands before investing in more expensive pieces.

The conversation also covers favorite cycling brands, daily Lycra underwear, shiny full-body suits, wetsuits, latex, and the challenge of getting into a suit with a zipper running up the back.

Lycra as Everyday Clothing

Lycra is not something LycAddict saves only for pictures or special occasions. He wears it every day.

He has replaced traditional cotton underwear with Lycra underwear, wears comfortable sports gear around the house, and incorporates leggings and performance clothing into gym outfits. He especially enjoys combining soccer kits with Lycra, creating an everyday athletic look with something tighter and more exciting underneath.

Cycling gear also gives him the chance to wear Lycra publicly while using it for its intended purpose. There is something special about getting outside, enjoying the gear, and seeing other cyclists doing the same.

Finding Confidence Through Community

One of the most important parts of this conversation is LycAddict’s experience with the online spandex community.

He initially joined Spandex Party to look at other members’ pictures. Eventually, he decided it was time to contribute. Although he worried about how people might respond, the reaction was positive and welcoming.

That encouragement led him to create an Instagram account, share more of his collection, and connect with even more gear enthusiasts.

His message to other guys is simple: wear what you enjoy, show what you want to show, and wear it proudly. You do not need a particular body type to look great in Lycra.

The gear may bring people together, but the friendships, encouragement, inspiration, and sense of belonging are what make the community matter.

Listen to the Full Conversation

This episode is for anyone who loves Lycra, cycling kits, soccer gear, singlets, leggings, bodysuits, wetsuits, or shiny performance fabrics. It is also a great introduction for guys who are curious about spandex but have not yet taken their first step.

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Wear what you love. Wear it proudly. Join us for another episode of Stretching the Truth.

Think your story isn’t interesting? That’s exactly why we want you on the podcast.

One of the biggest misconceptions I hear is:

  • “I’m not interesting enough.”
  • “I’m too shy.”
  • “I don’t have anything important to say.”
  • “I don’t wear anything wild.”
  • “I’m just a regular guy.”

That’s the point.

The podcast has never been about finding influencers, models, or the loudest voices in the room. It’s about the guys who make up this community every day.

  • The guy who discovered briefs again after years of boxers.
  • The cyclist who loves his Lycra but has never told anyone why.
  • The first-time thong wearer.
  • The lifelong Speedo fan.
  • The guy who’s still figuring out what he likes.
  • The husband, dad, college student, retiree, gym rat, office worker… every one of us has a story.

Here’s something I’ve learned after hundreds of episodes:

The conversations people remember most aren’t always the wildest ones. They’re the honest ones.

When one guy shares his story, another listener realizes they’re not alone.

That’s how communities grow.

Pictures on social media show what someone wears. Conversations reveal who they are.

If you’re shy, that’s okay. Most guests tell me they were nervous before we started. Within a few minutes, it feels like two friends talking. There are no gotcha questions, no judgment, and no pressure to be someone you’re not.

Our goal isn’t just to make another podcast.

It’s to build a community where men can openly talk about underwear, swimwear, spandex, body confidence, and the things we’re usually told to keep to ourselves.

Every guest helps another guy feel seen.

So if you’ve ever thought…

“I don’t think anyone wants to hear my story.”

I promise you, someone does.

Because chances are, there’s another guy out there living that exact same story—and he’s been waiting to hear someone else say it first.

If you’ve ever considered coming on the podcast, send me a message. Let’s talk. You don’t have to be extraordinary.

You just have to be yourself.

Because regular guys are exactly what this community needs.

A conversation with Michael about tailoring, confidence, and what belongs underneath.

What makes a great suit feel so powerful—and what belongs underneath it?

On a new episode of Brief Talk After Dark, I sit down with Michael Dobbs for a conversation I have wanted to have for a long time: suits and underwear. They may seem like two separate interests, but for many guys, they fit together perfectly.

We talk about what makes a suit sexy, why the ritual of getting dressed can completely change your mindset, and how the underwear no one else can see may be the most important part of the outfit.

Brief Talk After Dark: What makes a great suit feel so powerful—and what belongs underneath it?

A Suit Can Be a Kind of Armor

Michael’s love of suits began when he was about 20 years old and working in Boston. It was the 1990s, when Back Bay was still filled with men in traditional businesswear. Seeing those sharply dressed guys made an impression that never left him.

Today, he describes a suit as much more than formal clothing. It can be a special outfit that changes how you carry yourself, much like leather, sports gear, latex, or puppy gear does for the people who love those styles.

“A suit is almost like armor. Just like leather, sports gear, latex, or puppy gear, it’s a special outfit that changes how you feel. When I put one on, I feel confident, sexy, and ready for whatever comes next.”

The Power of a Suit: A suit is almost like armor

That feeling is something many gear lovers understand. Clothing can create a boundary between everyday life and the version of yourself you want to become. A suit can make you feel polished, focused, powerful, or sexy before you ever walk into a room.

Getting Dressed Is Part of the Experience

A suit is never only the jacket and trousers. The complete look is built one choice at a time: the shirt, tie, cuff links, pocket square, socks, shoes, and everything worn underneath.

For Michael, that process is a ritual. He sometimes wears a suit even while working from home because changing into it signals that the workday has begun. The outfit helps create the mindset.

“Putting on a suit isn’t just getting dressed. It’s choosing the shirt, the tie, the cuff links, the pocket square, the shoes, and even the underwear. Every step is part of a process that helps me feel confident before I walk out the door.”

More Than Just Clothes: Putting on a suit is a process

The same transformation can happen with other types of clothing. Running tights can put you in the mood to exercise. Cowboy boots, jeans, and a hat can bring out a different side of your personality. Leather can unlock another one. What matters is how the clothes make you feel.

Why Suits Remain So Appealing

Workplaces have become much more casual. Offices that once expected jackets and ties now settle for trousers and a shirt—or jeans and a polo. Even in London, with its legendary tailoring tradition, Michael has noticed that complete suits are no longer as common in financial districts.

That may be one reason a fully styled suit feels even more distinctive today.

Michael loves pinstripes, especially as part of a three-piece suit. He appreciates waistcoats, rich fabrics, beautiful linings, cuff links, pocket squares, sheer over-the-calf socks, sock garters, and highly polished shoes. Each detail adds to the energy of the finished look.

“What I love most about suits is the feeling they create. It’s the appearance, the energy, and the confidence. Putting on a suit gives me a sense of power that a lot of people don’t understand unless they’ve experienced clothing that makes them feel incredible.”

Why Suits Are So Appealing: appearance, energy, and confidence

There is also something exciting about going beyond the minimum. If a restaurant requires a jacket and tie, Michael does not want to dress one level above the requirement—he wants to go ten levels above it. Dressing well brings compliments, attention, and, most importantly, personal satisfaction.

The Best Part May Be Underneath

Of course, this is Brief Talk After Dark, so we had to discuss what goes under the suit.

Michael’s two favorite styles are thongs and jockstraps, with thongs taking the top spot most of the time. The contrast is part of the appeal: a traditional, perfectly coordinated suit on the outside and something small, sexy, and unexpected underneath.

“I sneak thongs under my suits all the time. Even with a beautifully lined pair of trousers, I love having that extra layer underneath. It’s part of what makes wearing a suit feel complete.”

Underwear Completes the Experience: thongs under suits

That secret can give you a private confidence boost throughout the day. No one else has to know what you are wearing, but you know—and that can change the entire experience.

There are no rules about the “right” underwear for a suit. A thong, jockstrap, bikini, classic brief, boxer, or something more adventurous can all work. The best choice is whatever makes you feel good in the clothes.

A Lifetime Love of Thongs

Michael has been wearing thongs for more than 30 years. His story began at 16, when he found a hidden package at Kmart and took it home. That first purchase grew into an enduring part of his style and identity.

After stepping away from underwear collecting for a while, he returned to it around 15 years ago. Today, he attends thong events and enjoys discovering new brands and styles through other people in the community.

“I’ve been wearing thongs for more than thirty years. It started with one hidden package from Kmart when I was sixteen, and it’s grown into something that’s become part of who I am.”

A Lifetime Love of Thongs: Michael’s story began with a package from Kmart

The story will sound familiar to many underwear lovers. Before online shopping and social media made nearly every style easy to find, discovering something different in a department store could feel like finding a new world. That first pair was not just underwear—it was the beginning of understanding what made you feel like yourself.

Suits, Underwear, and Wearing What You Love

The biggest lesson from our conversation is simple: wear what makes you feel confident.

For Michael, that might be a pinstripe three-piece suit with a thong underneath. It might be a tuxedo and patent leather shoes, a leather blazer and trousers, compression gear for a run, or cowboy boots worn with a suit. Each look creates its own energy.

You do not have to like every combination, and you do not need everyone else to understand yours. Personal style becomes much more interesting when we stop treating categories as rigid rules and start letting people enjoy what makes them feel good.

So, what belongs under a great suit? Whatever makes you feel sexy, powerful, and ready for whatever comes next.

Listen to Brief Talk After Dark featuring Michael talking suits

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Are you a suit guy? What do you wear underneath? Send your thoughts to feedback@brieftalkpodcast.com. I would love to hear from more suit lovers—and this conversation definitely deserves a part two.

Is smaller better? I tend to fall into this camp, especially in summertime. This is the Glow Tanga from Body Aware. This tanga has a string waistband that is perfect for everyday wear, and if you are in a hot climate, it’s the perfect pair to wear under shorts for maximum breathability.

The color we profiled is lime, but it comes in several colors to suit your wardrobe or favorite color. Check out this and all the glow line. If you use our affiliate link you can save on your next order.

The unofficial end of summer is upon us- that is, the Labor Day weekend! But until then, it’s time to break out your skimpiest gear and enjoy the sun. N2N Bodywear never lets us down in the skimpy department. The new P-Town Bikini and Thong are perfect for getting that minimal tan line and showing off a little. Both of these feature a clip on the side which can be used for many purposes; I’ll let you figure them out!

Go see the two amazing pairs, the P-Town Bikini and Thong, before they are gone.

Today is one of my favorite days of the year—National Underwear Day!

If you’ve never heard of it, National Underwear Day began in 2003 when the underwear store Freshpair organized a public celebration in New York City’s Times Square. What started as a fun promotional event quickly became an unofficial holiday for underwear lovers everywhere. Over the years, it’s grown into a day where people celebrate style, confidence, comfort, and the often-overlooked piece of clothing we all wear every day.

For me, though, National Underwear Day has become about something much bigger.

It’s about giving yourself permission to wear what you love.

Whether that’s briefs, bikinis, trunks, boxer briefs, jocks, thongs, panties, singlets, or even nothing more than your favorite pair around the house—you should never feel like you have to apologize for it. Wear the styles that make you feel confident, comfortable, sexy, athletic, supported, or simply like yourself.

One of the biggest things I’ve been talking about lately is moving beyond worrying about what other people think. Too many guys spend years avoiding certain styles because someone once told them they were “too revealing,” “not masculine,” or “not for them.”

Forget all that.

  • Wear the bright colors.
  • Wear the prints.
  • Wear the pouch.
  • Wear the thong.
  • Wear the bikini.
  • Wear the lace.
  • Wear the compression gear.
  • Wear whatever makes you smile when you put it on.

Life’s too short to let someone else’s opinion dictate what’s in your underwear drawer.

And if you’re comfortable doing it, celebrate today by sharing your favorite pair online. You never know who might see your post and realize they’re not the only one who loves that style. Every photo, every conversation, and every story helps make it a little easier for the next guy to wear what he loves without feeling judged.

So today, celebrate National Underwear Day the best way possible:

Wear what makes YOU feel amazing.

Happy National Underwear Day, everyone!

There’s been one brand that you guys have been sending me questions about for a little while now, and I was unable to find any information. But this week I found out some very interesting information about it.

So this year, we noticed some interesting things happening with the brand 2(x)ist . First off, they really shut down their website. And now you have to go to Amazon to buy any of their underwear, which was kind of strange since they’ve been an iconic brand in the industry since the nineteen nineties. I mean, they are probably one of the first gay brands of underwear around that really went mainstream.

It is. I believe they were one the heritage gay mainstream underwear brands, and they were the first of those brands to have a television commercial. So it’s kind of weird and strange that this really big brand has now kind of fallen by the wayside and is slowly disappearing.

So what I found out was that it used to be owned by a corporation, and that corporation sold it to a venture capital fund. And as we know, venture capital funds are ones that go in, leverage debt, and then sell off the parts basically. And this — from what I gather and what I’ve been feeling — is going to be the end of the brand as we know it, if not going out of business.

So if you have a favorite pair, I suggest you hold on to them because I don’t know if they will be making anything new. I haven’t looked at their Amazon shop to see what they’re doing, but one of the sources I had this week mentioned that it was probably being shipped overseas to China to make at lower production quality, lower fabrics, and just lower quality control overall.

So what you’ll be buying is not the product you may know and love. It may be something new. And I believe they may be licensing out the name to use for collaborations and other business dealings.

So I’m very curious what you guys think. I’ve said for the past couple of months that I think we’re going to see a big shakeup in the underwear world. This is like one of the first things — you know, Andrew Christian closed last year, and now we have Do Exist kind of. We don’t know what they’re doing.

So I will not be surprised if they go out of business, but I think there are other brands that really are going to either stop or, you know, go the same way.

So I’m really curious what you guys think. Are there any brands you’re worried about? Any brands that you wish still had the same quality when you first started buying them? Let me know. 

Eric, better known as The Jocker Room, returns to Brief Talk for an honest conversation about body image, social media, personal boundaries, and the assumptions people make when someone posts photos in underwear.

The conversation begins with an unexpected DM asking Eric whether he was using a weight-loss medication. Although the message was intended as a compliment, it raised a larger question: Why do people feel entitled to comment on someone else’s weight or speculate about what they’re doing with their body?

Tim and Eric explore how unsolicited feedback can go in both directions—from pressure to lose weight and build muscle to fetishizing weight gain. They also discuss how apps and social media can strip the humanity from interactions, turning real people into bodies to evaluate, sexualize, or make demands of.

But social media isn’t entirely negative. Eric shares how posting underwear photos has helped him build confidence, connect with others, and develop genuine friendships within the underwear community. He also explains why he turned off replies to his Instagram Stories—and how that decision resulted in fewer empty reactions and more meaningful conversations.

Along the way, Tim and Eric discuss giving better compliments, setting realistic personal goals, the rising price of underwear, and why underwear can be such a personal and vulnerable form of self-expression for gay men.

This episode is a reminder that there is always a real person behind the photo—and that a thoughtful conversation means far more than another fire emoji.

In This Episode

  • Unsolicited comments about weight and weight-loss medication
  • How compliments can reinforce harmful body standards
  • Fetishizing weight loss and weight gain
  • Establishing boundaries in DMs and on social media
  • Why posting underwear doesn’t imply consent or sexual availability
  • The difference between thirst traps and community building
  • Giving compliments that recognize the person, not only their appearance
  • Setting realistic health and body goals
  • Finding confidence through posting photos
  • Why underwear can be connected to identity, sexuality, and vulnerability
  • Turning online connections into genuine friendships
  • The increasingly high price of premium underwear

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I’ve been talking with the organizers behind Thongers Australia, and I have to say, I’m really excited about what they’re putting together. This is going to be the first event of its kind in Australia, giving thong lovers a dedicated weekend to relax, connect, and celebrate with other guys who share the same passion.

For years, if you wanted to attend a thong-focused weekend, you had to make the trip to places like Palm Springs or Fort Lauderdale. Not anymore.

Now, an amazing weekend is coming Down Under.

Set on Queensland’s beautiful coast in February 2027, this boutique event is all about good company, warm weather, and plenty of time in your favorite swimwear. The plans include relaxed pool days, a waterside thong fashion parade, a Saturday night show, and a Sunday drag brunch—all taking place at one hotel, so once you arrive, you can simply enjoy the experience.

The organizers are currently locking in the venue, dates, and full schedule, but they’re already taking Expressions of Interest. If this sounds like your kind of weekend, I highly recommend signing up now. You’ll be the first to receive all the details, get early access to tickets before they’re released to the public, and stay up to date as more announcements are made.

If you’ve ever wanted to experience a weekend surrounded by guys who understand why you love wearing thongs, this is shaping up to be the event you’ve been waiting for.

Head over to the Thongers Australia Weekend website, register your interest, and hopefully I’ll see some of you there in February 2027!

Swim season is about halfway over, and if you are like me, you need something new halfway through the season. I mean, you have to mix it up a bit and always show up in bold and fun swimwear. N2N Bodywear has the new Voltage Xtreme Sport swim brief in three bold colors. They are Neon Pink, Neon Yellow, and Neon Orange. My personal favorite is the Yellow.

These are super fun and will get you noticed! Whether you wear them at the beach, pool party, or lying out. You will turn heads. Go enjoy the rest of your summer in something bold and bright.

Two of my favorite things have combined into one! Amoresy, the amazing spandex company, has released the Helion Bodybuilder Singlet – Pure version, in their incredible, silky-smooth spandex fabric. If you have never tried Amoresy, you are missing out! Every time I wear a piece of their gear, I can’t help but rub the material. It feels so amazing on me. I dare to say it’s my favorite fabric for gear.

The new singlet comes in six fun colors. The colors are white, black, green, silver, gray, navy blue, and burgundy. Of course, I want the green! But this is one of those instances where I want them all. Do I need more? No, but I want them! The best thing about Amoresy is that their gear isn’t super expensive. Singlets can go over $100, but this one is $53.99, which isn’t bad! Perfect for those guys willing to jump into spandex gear for the first time, or for spandex gear collectors.

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We must have regular guys on the podcast, and it’s been a struggle for me over the last couple of months to get people on. But I’m going to give you some reasons to come on the podcast.

  • The first reason is that it’s a good way to become a part of the bigger community out there. There are so many guys into spandex, Speedos, underwear, and coming on, sharing your story gives guys a little bit of a peek behind who the guy in the pictures is, or comments that you make online. It allows them to get a deeper understanding of who you are and what you love much more easily than a picture can.
  • The second reason is that I think we need to move offline for our community. Online is a great thing—it allows you to meet people from all over the world who share your interests, and all over the country. But I think the next step is actually getting to the part where we meet up in person, and that is not easy, especially given the distance between us. But small meetups here and there, meeting someone or meeting in a city, or even small groups of travel—I think they’re the way to go. It’s a good way for guys you may have met, or you know you’ve known, to get a little bit deeper into who you are.
  • It’s just fun to show people there are other guys like them out there. I know we’ve all struggled in the past, and some still do now, that you’re the only one who likes whatever gear you like. No one else is into it—no one else. You know you’ve run across no one. When you’ve had experiences, your partner’s like, “uh, no.” But in all actuality, no matter what you love, there is someone who is into it as much as you are. And sometimes you find out more—it’s good to have those people hear you because you’re not going to see everyone on social media. It’s impossible.

The prime example of that is when Jason and Griff came on the show. I had never met or heard of Griff, yet we had so many connections. So that goes to show you that it’s a big world out there, and you will miss people on social media not because you’re not willing, but because the algorithm and you know—just circumstances—never have you lining up together.

I hope you will consider coming on one of our podcasts to have some really amazing conversations and share your journey and your story. Or, if you want to have a conversation about something in the world of gear, that would be amazing. So just let me know, DM me, and let’s talk.

The CellBlock 13 Liquid Night Trunk Jock is made for guys who want to blur the line between athletic gear and fetish fashion. Taking inspiration from the Liquid Night Collection, it combines the dark shine of black chrome with an edgy, masculine look that demands attention. As the light hits the sleek pleather-look fabric, the finish appears to flow across the body, giving it a liquid-like effect that’s impossible to ignore.

I love it when a brand takes a familiar style and pushes it in a bold new direction. At first glance, the front delivers the coverage of a modern trunk with a roomy contour pouch that enhances your natural shape. Turn around, though, and this design transforms into a daring jock-inspired silhouette. The open back and supportive side panels create a look that’s equal parts athletic gear, clubwear, and fetish fashion.

The smooth stretch blend moves comfortably with your body while the soft felt interior keeps it wearable for extended sessions, whether you’re hitting a gear night, leather event, private party, or simply enjoying the confidence that comes from wearing something designed to be seen. It’s a piece that celebrates body confidence, masculine energy, and the thrill of stepping outside the ordinary.

CellBlock 13 finishes the look with premium details, including a centered rubber logo on the waistband, raised felt branding, a contrasting stripe across the pouch, and durable double-stitched construction throughout. Every detail reinforces the structured, high-end feel of this striking design.

If your underwear drawer is filled with basics, the Liquid Night Trunk Jock isn’t for you. But for guys who appreciate bold gear, fetish-inspired fashion, and underwear that turns heads the moment the pants come off, this is exactly the kind of statement piece UNB loves to feature.

The Xdress Men’s Lace Brazilian Panty in Red proves that confidence and style can go hand in hand. Featuring soft floral lace, a flattering Brazilian cut, and a vibrant red color, this design brings a modern twist to classic lingerie. The contoured pouch provides comfortable support, while the semi-sheer lace offers just the right amount of visual appeal. Whether you’re looking to add something bold to your underwear drawer or simply want to try a different style, this pair is a fun reminder that great underwear is all about wearing what makes you feel your best.

One of the biggest questions we hear from listeners is:

“When do I tell someone I’m into underwear?”

Whether your passion is briefs, bikinis, thongs, jocks, lingerie, spandex, or another fetish, talking about it with a partner can feel intimidating. Should you bring it up on the first date? Wait until you’re in a relationship? What if you’ve been together for years and have never said anything?

This week, UNB Tim sits down with clinical sexologist and sex therapist Dr. Ty to answer those questions and many more.

Together they explore how to communicate openly about kinks, why honesty builds stronger relationships, and why shame has no place in healthy sexuality.

This conversation isn’t just about underwear—it’s about authenticity, communication, and finding partners who accept you for who you really are.

In This Episode

  • Why the timing of sharing your kink depends on how important it is to your sexuality
  • The difference between a casual interest, a fetish, and a primary kink
  • Why honesty early in dating can actually save relationships
  • How hiding a major kink can unintentionally feel like a “bait and switch”
  • The “Share-Check” method for introducing fantasies and kinks gradually
  • Ways to test the waters before having a deeper conversation
  • Why trying new things together can strengthen long-term relationships
  • How couples discover new turn-ons through curiosity and communication
  • Why underwear is often much less “extreme” than people imagine
  • Breaking down shame around kinks and sexual interests
  • The importance of consent, communication, and mutual respect
  • Why you don’t owe everyone an explanation of your sexuality
  • Finding community if you feel like you’re the only one

Key Takeaways

  • Honest communication builds healthier relationships.
  • Your partner can’t support something they don’t know about.
  • Curiosity is healthier than shame.
  • Not every partner will share your kink—and that’s okay.
  • Being authentic helps you find people who truly accept you.
  • There is no “right” kink as long as it’s safe, consensual, and legal.
  • You are far from alone.

About Our Guest

Dr. Ty is a clinical sexologist and licensed sex therapist who helps individuals and couples navigate relationships, communication, intimacy, and sexuality without shame.

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One of the favorite swimwear styles from 2EROS is the V10 Core Swim Brief. This is what 2EROS has to say about this classic line, “The iconic Core swimwear is a timeless classic that focuses on emphasizing your body’s assets..Clean, vibrant colors designed to complement your style and surroundings.” This year they have Rust Orange and Cool Mint. Find these and more at the 2EROS website.

I love Cocksox, and there isn’t a style they make that I don’t love. They dropped the Capri collection recently, and here’s what they say about it: “Designed to move with the body, maintaining comfort whether you are active, traveling, or simply going about your day. A balance of structure and flexibility.” One thing that you konw will be great is the pouch, you can never go wrong with the pouch!!

N2N Bodywear is killing it lately with the bold neon colors. I bought the Rebel shorts and the throwback to the 80s is amazing. Now, they have released a line of underwear in the same bold colors. One I had to profile is the South Beach Jock, If you are a jock fan or just a fan of bold colors, this jock is for you. Comes in two colos and would be perfect for an underwear night or under mesh shorts.