I”m starting my journey to loose weight again. I had a physical in the first time in forever. It shed light into two things. First I needed to loose weight (DUH!) and second for the first time in my life I have higher than average cholesterol. But, with what I eat it’s no wonder that both were the case.

Over the last few years I have been working from home. Making it way to easy to eat what ever was near by. All the weight I lost a few years ago all came back. And also, I didn’t care. I was at a point in my life I wasn’t happy and thought “who really cares.” I’m in the process of transitioning back to an office setting. Thus, getting out of the house on a daily basis. Keep your fingers crossed.

UNB has been one thing that I LOVE doing more than anything. It has been a bright spot in my life. I created it in another time of my life that wasn’t the best. Its been the one constant amazing thing in my life. Being a bigger guy, this can cause a problem. I can’t wear many of the brands we report on. Some don’t make XL and others end at size 36 waist. This has caused issues with me and my favorite style.

The style I love the best are bikinis. The main reason is I like tighter underwear that keeps everything in place. Especially with a great pouch that gives ample support. That being said, its not “acceptable” for bigger guys to wear skimpy underwear. Only muscle guys with 6 pack abs should wear this underwear, is what’s being reinforced. And bigger guys should stick to boxer briefs and similar styles.

To this I say NO WAY. Why can’t a bigger guy wear something super sexy and fun? Look on any social media with a bigger guy wearing a bikini. You will see plenty of negative comments about why he shouldn’t wear them. Why is this any concern of the commenters. I say bravo for putting it out there and taking the bold step. This is why, over the years guys have relented on posting personal pictures on the site. If they are outside the norm of what’s considered “in shape”. They don’t want to take the risk of being called “Fat” or worse. Commenters can rip someone apart. This has happened a few times on the site in the past. I try to shut it down as soon as I can.

What are the sizes of guys who read the site?

According to our latest survey: Smalls 19%, Medium 46%, Large 23% and XL are 11% and 1% is other sizes.  So the majority of guys are who read the site are medium. We don’t leave the XL guys out. I would note that small guys have problems as well. But it’s not something I can speak of, one of our other guys will address this. We cover underwear for all guys, no pun intended

My Journey…

When I was younger, I guess you would consider me a Twink. I was tall with a 32 waist and could get away with wearing what ever I wanted. I even wore swim briefs quite often and would lay out in them and not care what people had to say. As I went through my 20’s my metabolism slowed down at 27. Before that time I could eat what ever I wanted and never gained weight. After 27 that all changed. It wasn’t something that happened over night. Over the next few years I went up to a 36 waist. Being 6’4” that’s not really that big. It’s probably closer to what I should be at in waist size.

Then through my 30’s I slowly crept up in weight. In 2012, I hight the hight of 302 pounds. The over the 300 mark was the catalyst to me loosing weight. Over the next year. I watched what I ate and cut out french fries, soda and other high fat foods. It worked well and I lost over 75 pounds and got down to 225. My waist went from a 42 to a 36ish (you know sizing). I felt much better and could fit in all the amazing underwear we report on. Before i lost weight there were several brands I never was able to wear. I was reporting but unable to wear what was out there.

After this time I lost a job and focused mainly on my business. It was rough and had it’s ups and downs. Those who own your own small business know what I”m talking about. It’s working 7 days a week, no sick or vacation days. And I was just getting by economically. This caused massive stress and working from home I would eat when the stress hit. I have never been a stress eater until recently. This caused me to gain all the weight I lost back.

Underwear During this time

Before I lost the weight I still wore what I liked. I never let anyone dictate what I could or should wear. It was hard to find great pairs to fit. Brands that I loved and wore were Cocksox, N2N Bodywear, Big Boy Pants and a few more. After I lost the weight I branched out and tried a lot more brands. It was so exhilarating to be able to embrace my love. It made me happy.

When I started to gain the weight back I had to break out the XLs again. Which I wasn’t happy about but I had a lot of favorite pairs that were XL and were too big for me. So I would have plenty of great pairs to wear. I guess that’s the best thing about running a blog, you have plenty of amazing undies.

The last year I still wore my bikinis and pouch briefs. I didn’t listen to what society had to say. I am single and on dating sites. I have shared some pics. For the most part I get great response from what I post. I should preface this by saying these are guys who love bigger guys. But on the flip side I haven’t had anyone speak out and say negative things. Well directly to me. They may think it but haven’t said it to me.

Do Some of Our Readers feel the same?

I have talked to a few of our readers on a regular basis. Some are bigger guys and have voiced similar opinions. They wear what they want but keep it hidden to only their significant other or sit themselves. It’s not like they are running out and showing everyone their undies.

Many have mentioned they don’t want to wear thongs or bikinis until they loose weight. I always think, WHY? Why are you not wearing the underwear you want? It’s no one’s business what you wear. If you want to rock a mesh thong under your pants, DO IT! Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t wear it.

Men’s underwear already needs a boost in main stream culture. Even the guys in great shape sometimes get slack from mainstream America. Great undies are just for women and you should be wearing what most guys are wearing. If you don’t they question your sexuality and think only gay guys should wear something like that. Bigger guys get the weight stigma on top of that.

What Needs to be done?

First, the hardest is to get general acceptance of underwear for men. This is something that is not easy to accomplish. We are UNB are working on that and have branched out to more guys. We have gay/straight/bi, single/married/dating and large/small. All guys are welcome at UNB. I have had more conversations this last year with a variety of guys. It opens my eyes to issues all guys have, and we are more similar than you think!

Next, Brands making underwear in bigger sizes. Bigger sizes are slowly coming to the world of men’s underwear. Brands like N2N Bodywear and Junk UnderJeans are making XL and larger sizes. Then there are brands like BearSkn. They make underwear in all sizes from small to I believe 4XL. The underwear is great quality and fit. I have tried many pairs of BearSkn. It’s very well made with amazing materials. They really took a problem and created underwear for this market. BearSkn started very classic and are starting to branch out into more fashion with the Neon line. I hope we see them grow and progress in their designs. Currently they only have briefs and boxer briefs. It would be awesome for them to make a jock!

I wish other brands would take note and make some larger sizes. Its totally up to them to do sizing. There are brands that just go up to 36 inch waist. Which cuts off a big section of the market. If you’re tall like me having a 38 inch waist doesn’t look big. A tall guy, like me, can be a 36 or 38 inch waist and it not seem “big.” It would be the equivalent of a guy around 5’9” being a 34 waist.

We need to encourage guys and not discourage them from wearing underwear. We are all underwear lovers. We share a unique brotherhood that crosses sexual orientation. I have had the honor to get to know many of our straight readers and staff members. We have so much in common. Our love of underwear almost always starts in our teens. We have talked about this in a few Brief Talks with Brandon and Salvatore. Both have a very distinct point of view. Speaking from the gay perspective, we need to not do what society does and label guys who love undies as gay. And really what does it matter? Let’s encourage guys to branch out and try new styles and brands.

We still have a stigma that loving underwear is a strange fetish. I don’t go out and totally broadcast I run an underwear blog. When guys find out I do a blog, they share, “OMG I love underwear too.” Like it’s a secret and something to be a shamed of having. Let’s face it in the world of fetishes/loves wearing great underwear is pretty tame. I would love it if we got to a place where we could talk underwear like anything else we wear.

Lastly, wear what makes you feel amazing. It’s up to you to make the choice to wear what you want. I have been thin and big. Each time I wear what I want too. I love the fit and feel of a great bikini. The way the pouch holds everything in place. I hate underwear that lets things flop about. Support is the main factor in underwear. If you feel amazing in a thong, wear it. To hell with what others think. Including your significant other. If they really are your significant other they should accept and not make fun of undies. If someone I date makes fun of my underwear at the beginning. I know right then this isn’t going to work.

Feeling sexy is something only you can define for yourself. It could be silk boxers to a lace thong and everything in between. Great underwear has a side effect. It makes you feel more confident. We have heard anecdotal stories about guys wearing amazing undies while working. Most revolve around giving presentations and similar things. We firmly agree this happens!

Back to my journey. The reason I am loosing weight is for myself. I’m not doing it to make someone else happy. I got to where I was because I was very unhappy. To make a step in the right direction I feel this needs to be part of that journey. I will not work to get to a 32 waist and will be quite happy with a 36. I think much smaller than that it looks too thin on me. I will still be rocking my bikinis no matter what size I am. I don’t care what people think. If you don’t think I should wear bikinis, I am not going to listen.

Body image is one thing we need to talk more about in the world of men’s underwear. I hope this will open up a conversation about the topic. This is a very personal post for me. It’s kind of therapeutic for me. I haven’t talked much about this to anyone. I hope you will comment, share on social media and/or email questions/comments.

This year’s Reader Survey was the most we have ever had respond. Now we are going to share some basic questions. We are working on the more detailed responses you guys gave and will report on it in early June. We are working as a team to go through the data and interpret it. Then we will report on it! In the mean time we have some quick and easy results for you guys. Feel free to share these on social media and to your friends! (click on any of these to show full size)

We have guys with decent collections. Most have 20-60 pairs and the next highest is is 60-120 pairs. The number that I thought would be higher is 200+ pairs.

You guys buy underwear a few times a month. I’m not sure if it was the question or just buying habits. The daily and weekly is a big lower than I would have thought. I know a few readers who buy weekly! This matches my own habits of buying.

Briefs/Bikinis really took this one by a wide margin. I knew you guys loved them but not by this amount. Thongs come in a second and Boxer Briefs round out the top three.

You guys change underwear more than once a day. This could be working out, change when you come home from the gym or other reasons. This is why you need a bigger underwear collection.

This one made me happy. 43% of you guys have worn swim briefs. And 25% wear them all the time. You guys don’t need our Swimwear Challenge! Only 15% of you guys wouldn’t wear one in public.

The Swim brief is supreme with our readers. And the second popular style is swim shorts. This matches what I figured we would get. Thongs, however, are growing in popularity.

We asked what kind of models do you guys like. Most want a mix of professional, up and coming and real guys. Second is Real guys. This is something we are working towards. (More on this next week). Let us know what or who you want to see in underwear.

This one had a few surprises. First, the spandex wasn’t a surprise. More guys are getting into wearing it. The Lace over the leather was a shock. I wasn’t sure we would have as many guys into it. Lastly, Rubber/latex got a lot less than I was expecting. I am curious about the other? If you answered “other” let us know what it is!

These are the quick results. We will have more soon. This survey will help us create new content as well. We find out what you guys like and it allows us to brainstorm on what you guys love!

Do you enjoy reading the site? Do you love seeing new shoots? Do you want to see more up and coming models? Do you want to see a real guy shoot? If you answered yes to any of the questions then you should visit our Patreon.

Consider donating just $1 a month. It may not seem like a lot of money. Think about all the things you can do with $1. If we have enough of our regular readers donate just that, we could do a lot with $1 donations. We don’t monetize the site to the fullest advantage. You may ask why? Because I value the reader experience. Its the most important thing to me. I hate it when I see ads through out a post on other sites. I don’t want that on my site.

We have been considering a few options of paid content. If you guys donate to Patreon we won’t have to do this! It takes money to run the site, host it, do shoots and more. I would love if I could turn this “hobby” into something more substantial.

How do you donate? Visit the UNB Patreon for all the details. We definitely can use your support. If you can’t give money please share our content or tell your friends about us.

Guest: T Lawrence

BEAU: Ready for round 3 on the Pouch Couch? Today on the love seat…I mean Pouch Couch, we have T Lawrence and his thoughts on Pouches. So let’s see how he fills his likes and dislikes.

BEAU: What defines the perfect pouch in your mind?

TL: I love pouches that lifts up the balls, and smooths down the penis. For me, since I am a professional acrobat, I don’t like undies that let my balls roam around (I like jiggle, but not bounce if you get what I mean). I like it when the pouch is a separate area from the fabric going under the crotch. Having said that, I don’t like pouches that have that second fabric behind it with the U shaped cutout so your junk falls into an actual pocket. I always feel uncomfortable under my balls after a few hours.

BEAU: What is the most important thing you look for in a pouch?

TL: I don’t like pointy pouches. Ya know where they make the penis head point out and then the balls are elsewhere below? I am not a fan. It has nothing to do with any negative feelings towards male anatomy, I just want it to be a unified front 🙂

BEAU: Which brands make your favorite pouches?

TL: I always do this, where I answer future questions by accident in the category above. So yeah: N2N, Andrew Christian (depends on the collection), and Obviously

BEAU: What are some examples of great pouches?

TL: I am currently obsessed with N2N Bodywear’s Maverick pouch. I had a Maverick G from back in college, but I’m not a thong guy really, but I just got two briefs of the Maverick line and I’m in love. I wanna sew my own out of all sorts of crazy fabrics. Another great pouch I currently love is the BLOW Brief by Andrew Christian (i have 5 of them now). Also, honorable mention to the Obviously Geometric Briefs. Yummy pouch with a sexy light fabric.
BEAU: Do you want structure or flexibility?

TL: Can’t I have both?

BEAU: Absolutely!

TL: I like some structure, cause I am not a free-baller, and don’t want that feeling, but I also spend most of my time in dance belts, so when I am not at work, I want to be able to hang.
BEAU: Do aesthetics play a role in picking out a pair/pouch?
TL:  Absolutely, I am all about color and design details. If a pair of undies is really great fit, but hideous/boring fabric, I probably won’t wear it.

BEAU: Have your pouch preferences changed at all over time?

-Oh definitely, when I was growing up, for some reason, I was afraid of anything manly (which is hilarious, because I was also in LOVE with anything manly). I was afraid when my leg hair was really growing in, armpit hair…and especially afraid of ever showing a bulge. I wore tight underwear that held me up and in…Well, I am definitely not afraid to be visibly manly anymore, and that shows in my undies. I love a good bulge.

BEAU: Any “fun” pairs that you have that aren’t exactly Day to Day pairs?

TL: Hrmmm, I actually got sent a review pair a really long time ago to review for this site. It was kookoobananas. There was literally a fabric wall behind the pouch that had a “gloryhole” in it. You had to get your whole package through that hole by reaching through the sides of the pouch that were open (not the top) to get your junk through. It felt a lot like being in a darkroom, trying to get the can of film open and into the developer tin before you can turn on the light.

BEAU: Anything else before you leave the Pouch Couch?

TL: I am still hunting for my favorite pouch SEWING pattern. It is elusive. If anyone has any leads (yes I know I can just trace undies onto paper, but I want to draft my own…)

BEAU: And there you have it even more thoughts on Pouches. I’m also loving finding out all of the different words or phrases we use to try and talk about what actually in the pouches without actually saying it. We’re a classy bunch J Thanks again to T Lawrence for joining me, Beau Briefs, on the Pouch Couch. Next time we’ll be talking to the perfectly lovely Austin!

Some people get a rush from bungee jumping, sky diving, rock climbing, or other extreme activities. You’d probably call those activities a bit daring and a walk on the wild side. Well, for me underwear is my walk on the wild side. Now you may say how does underwear give you a rush? First off I don’t wear what you typically would picture a guy wearing. I enjoy skimpier styles of underwear. You know the bikinis and thongs that people say ‘eeew’ about when it’s a guy. Yeah you know who you are – just get over it. Nothing wrong with us guys enjoying skimpy underwear in this day and age.

Okay, back to how it’s a rush. First there is a rush when that new pair arrives in the mail and the anticipation of trying it on. Hopefully, once you pull the new pair on it meets or exceeds your expectation. Otherwise say bye bye rush. Also not meeting the norm for guys underwear gives a bit of a rush along with daring I’d say. Sometimes out and about it might hit me that I’m wearing a bikini or a thong. Which gives a little rush knowing most likely none of the other guys are.

I think daring pretty much speaks for itself with my underwear choice, since it is not a typical male choice. With the wild side it is partly because it is against the norm. Most people likely see me as a quiet, conservative person, so who would think I’d be wearing a thong or bikini. Let alone my obsession with them. So I think they would see it as a wild side.

Now I wouldn’t just be wearing bikinis and thongs for a rush, to be daring, and have a wild side. Those are side effects of me discovering these styles for men. I wear them, because I find them more comfortable than briefs or boxers. I do not like having the restriction around my legs that the leg openings caused by briefs. I like support that boxers do not give. They make you feel sexy and give you a boost of confidence. They’re fun. It’s nice to wake up and pick out a pair that fits the mood of the day. Maybe even pick a pair to change the mood of the day if need be instead of slipping on the same thing day in and day out. An added bonus is my wife seems to enjoy finding out my choice for the day.

Today is the LAST day to take our Reader Survey! No more chances till next year to share your likes and dislikes of underwear. Make sure you voice is heard. Who knows we may use an idea you have for a new series or content! Go to the UNB Reader Survey page to take it!

We are coming into the home stretch of our Reader Survey. We want to get your opinion on the world of underwear. What you love and don’t like so much! Its simple just Go to the UNB Reader Survey page and take a few minutes to tell us what you think!